Suburban Senshi iChat #1273: “Moving On”
#1273: “Moving On”

 Sun Dec 02 02:12 2007 - Logging Started (suburbansenshi-chat)

IrnChef_Jovian> Gneh
[gTV] C'est_la_V> What's wrong, Mako-chan?
IrnChef_Jovian> Ugh, if I have one problem with my life it's that I'm always lookign backwards.
[gTV] C'est_la_V> Thinking of your old senpai again??
IrnChef_Jovian> Nah, thinking of the people who've been mean to me in the past, back when I was in Junior High.
IrnChef_Jovian> I still can't get them out of my head, even though it's been years.
[gTV] C'est_la_V> Moh...
IrnChef_Jovian> And, it's ridiculous. I mean, my life right now is really *sweet*, ya know?
IrnChef_Jovian> I got my own cafe, I'm doing the work I love, and I have really good friends
IrnChef_Jovian> I have absolutely nothin' to complain about.
IrnChef_Jovian> So why can't I let stuff go?
[gTV] C'est_la_V> Well the people who picked on you... did they always pick on you, or did they used to be your friends??
IrnChef_Jovian> They were my friends, I guess... until they hurt me
[gTV] C'est_la_V> That's why it bugs you.
[gTV] C'est_la_V> If it was people who were always jerks, you could say well "They're just jerks, good riddance!!" but when they used to be friends, you always want to know why they did what they did, and it hurts more.
[gTV] C'est_la_V> It's like in Star Wars, you expect Jabba the Hutt to smack you with his tail but you don't expect to be pervertedly groped by Jar-Jar Blinks
IrnChef_Jovian> "Binks" and I *think* I get what you mean.
[gTV] C'est_la_V> Mako-chan, I used to be like you.
[gTV] C'est_la_V> I was dumped a lot of times...
IrnChef_Jovian> (you also did a lotta dumping yourself)
[gTV] C'est_la_V> ...urusai
[gTV] C'est_la_V> ...and there were times I couldn't let it go when I was dumped
[gTV] C'est_la_V> I wanted to make them feel what I felt but they just carried on happy and like nothing had ever happened
[gTV] C'est_la_V> It was SO frustrating!!
[gTV] C'est_la_V> But then as I was sitting under a Bodhi Tree, the meaning of all things became clear to me...
=^catablanca^=> Mina that was the Buddha
=^catablanca^=> ugh nevermind ME then
[gTV] C'est_la_V> I realized that I was annoyed because I was miserable and they weren't
[gTV] C'est_la_V> So I decided that it was better to be happy for myself, and forget them!!
[gTV] C'est_la_V> And I followed my dreams and now I'm very happy!!
IrnChef_Jovian> "The best revenge is living well?"
[gTV] C'est_la_V> Hai, Hai~
[gTV] C'est_la_V> Of course I never forgot the other important saying...
[gTV] C'est_la_V> "Revenge is a Dish best served Bold!!"
=^catablanca^=> "Cold"
=^catablanca^=> ._.
IrnChef_Jovian> Well I mean, most times I can let it go, ya know? But every now and then it bubbles back up and I remember, an' I wish I didn't.
[gTV] C'est_la_V> When those times come just look at the smiling faces of your friends and move on ahead~
=^catablanca^=> Oh god if she breaks out into "Route Venus~"
[gTV] C'est_la_V> What is your PROBLEM tonight, Artemis!?!?
=^catablanca^=> Sorry, sorry
IrnChef_Jovian> I guess it's cuz there was no closure
[gTV] C'est_la_V> Forget that
[gTV] C'est_la_V> Remember the wise words of Samuel L Jackson: "When I was a child, I shopped as a child, I understood as a child, I bought as a child: but to be the man, you have to put away childish bling."
=^catablanca^=> ...Not even going to TRY to correct that
[gTV] C'est_la_V> Just put them away forever, they're not important anymore
[gTV] C'est_la_V> Whatever hurt they gave you is years ago
[gTV] C'est_la_V> The closure you want is not going to come from them it has to come from you, just say "I'm Mako-chan and I've overcome you!! And I'm never going to think about you ever again, and in fact, I dunno what I'm thinking about anymore because I forgot about it!! Or something!! I'm all better!!"
IrnChef_Jovian> *giggles*
IrnChef_Jovian> That's... a good idea
=^catablanca^=> There was an idea there?
[gTV] C'est_la_V> Artemis, shush
IrnChef_Jovian> Thanks Minako-chan
[gTV] C'est_la_V> Just be happy, Mako-chan! That alone is a "little finger" in itself
=^catablanca^=> "middle" finger, Mina.
[gTV] C'est_la_V> That too

 Sun Dec 02 02:36 2007 - Logging Stopped (suburbansenshi-chat)


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• 01/24/12 07:24pm

Unfortunately, humans dwell on negative events far more than positive events because we're hard-wired that way. Why is unknown; psychologists and behaviorists have been trying to figure that one out for centuries.

The actual source of the negative event is irrelevant : a bad relationship, a death in the family, a traumatic accident or event, a crime, etc. They're all equally overwhelming mnemonically. One reason why some victims of terrible crimes never fully recover is because their brains are in a sort of "feedback loop" : the event was so traumatizing that they can't understand why it happened in the first place, so they constantly keep on trying to make sense of an event that makes absolutely no sense to them. A perfect example of this would be the family of a girl I once knew in HS. She was very brutally murdered in her home one night, stabbed in the neck by someone she opened the front door for. Then her house was set on fire. Her brother had to jump out the 2nd-story window and her grandmother ( who was in a wheelchair ) was in the basement and had to be rescued by firefighters.

The investigation took a long time, but they ultimately found her killer...

...her own brother. Why? Why did he murder her? Why did he set her on fire like that? Why did he jeopardize the lives of the rest of his family to cover it up? Ultimately, those questions will probably be plaguing the minds of her parents for the rest of their lives.

Like I said, humans focus disproportionately more on the negative than the positive in just about EVERYTHING. Many years ago when I worked for the Barnes & Noble bookstore in my college I naturally had a LOT of contact with people. If a customer has a negative experience inside a store, how many people will hear about it from them through word-of-mouth ( this is actual information from the B&N employee handbook, btw )?

Minimum of sixteen.

If a customer has a positive experience inside a store, how many people will hear about it from them through word-of-mouth?

Maximum of four.

Do the math, folks.

Solarchos [e-mail] • 12/02/07 09:37pm

Minako: The Queen of Malaprops

You should listen to Artemis sometime, Minako :P

Ari Leroux [e-mail] • 12/02/07 03:52pm

Minako never fails to amuse me, I think her quoting Samuel Jackson is the funniest thing I've heard in days.

Kasumi [e-mail] • 12/02/07 09:04am

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